How to raise children healthy. How to raise a child healthy and successful? Q: Even thin children should be limited in sweets

1. Most troubles go away in the morning

This book is addressed to parents who need advice on how to raise healthy children. My goal is to teach you to recognize when a child needs medical help and when medical intervention should be avoided because it can do more harm than good. I also intend to warn you about the dangers lurking in the numerous medications and various tests, fluoroscopy and other procedures that your pediatrician may want to try on your child. This can have a detrimental effect on children's health.

Pediatricians are given one significant advantage over other doctors: they have wonderful assistants - parents who worry about the health of their children more than about their own. This is something we all need to think about.

If you wake up in the middle of the night with a headache, what will you do? Most likely, take aspirin, and the next morning you will get up in good health. Imagine that your baby woke up from the same thing late at night. Your first thought will be to call your pediatrician as soon as possible. If his phone isn't set to voicemail, I'm sure you'll hear, "Did you take your temperature?" Then, regardless of your answer, the doctor will say, “I don’t think you need to worry. Give aspirin, and in the morning bring the child to me for an appointment...” You hang up, already regretting the call, give your Jimmy an aspirin, and he soon falls asleep, just like you. And in the morning you are relieved to discover that Jimmy is cheerful, healthy and demanding breakfast. After feeding your child, you begin to think about whether to take him to the doctor or save time and money...

This is exactly what happens, but such a scenario should be avoided. Regarding the only symptom ( headache) there is no need to call the doctor, and there is even less reason to go to see him in the morning. If your child has no symptoms of a serious illness, a visit to the pediatrician will not be of any benefit. On the contrary, it may lead to unnecessary medical procedures that could turn healthy child into the patient!

If you have ever read books about children's health, then you have already noticed that my views differ from the generally accepted ones. Most of these books were written by doctors, and even those authors who honestly admit that many childhood illnesses, by their nature, go away on their own, agree with the others on one thing: no matter what symptom or disease we are talking about, the first recommendation is always should be: “Consult your doctor.”

The main advice of the author of this book, who has almost three decades of pediatric practice and teaching behind him: “Don’t go to the doctor.” This may surprise you, but over many years of reflection, I have come to the conclusion that the vast majority of childhood illnesses do not require the attention of doctors. When treatment is prescribed unnecessarily, it does more harm than good.

So, long-term observation of the behavior of doctors and my experience of treating thousands of children give reason to say: “Avoid pediatricians whenever possible.”

I will also name other premises on which my conclusions and recommendations set out on the following pages are based.

- At least 95 percent of the diseases to which children are prone, if they occur pass on their own.

“Too often, the risk of careless or unnecessary medical intervention is more dangerous than the consequences of the disease itself.

— A significant part of their time, pediatricians treat not the child, but parental anxiety caused by the poor health of their child. They often prescribe treatment unnecessarily (with all the ensuing consequences), to reassure parents, and do what they expect or demand from them. Worried parents, of course, need to be reassured, but not by treating children who are not sick. Meanwhile, pediatricians are not used to spending a lot of time on calming conversations. It is faster and easier for them to write a prescription.

— Better than any doctors are the mother of all things, Nature, parents, grandparents, who oppose the desire of medicine to suppress the body’s ability to self-heal. (The current generation of grandmothers is already zombied beyond the roof - H.B.)

“At least 90 percent of all medications prescribed by pediatricians are unnecessary, and children who take them risk losing their health. All drugs are toxic and dangerous in nature. In addition, their abuse in childhood creates in a person the misconception that there is a “pill for any disease,” leading to attempts to solve emotional problems “chemically.”

“At least 90 percent of all pediatric surgeries are performed inappropriately and expose young patients to the risk of death from accidents, anesthesia, or infections that are ripe for germ-infested hospital environments.”

— Among pediatricians, alas, there are many who have very superficial knowledge (or no knowledge at all) of dietetics and pharmacology: medical faculties pay almost no attention to these vital sciences. Patients suffer from the ignorance of doctors in matters of nutritional therapy and from side effects medicines.

“Parents know almost nothing about when a doctor is needed, and when they themselves, without medical intervention, can support the child’s body’s ability to cope with the disease.

I understand that if I simply name the shortcomings of the pediatric system and advise you, parents, to avoid the help of doctors and take more responsibility for the health of your children, then I will put an unbearable burden on your shoulders. It is much easier to follow this kind of advice in relation to yourself than to decide on this when it comes to the health of your beloved child.

Such duality, although understandable, turns parents into hostages of the pediatrician. Most of the children examined do not require treatment. But it is beneficial for the doctor to influence the parents by the very fact of treating the child. This course of action does not coincide with my ethical principles. However, I can understand a pediatrician doing this. He inevitably finds himself in a winning position - both financially and psychologically. Having “cured” a practically healthy child, the doctor receives not only good money, but also gratitude.

The reason for this behavior of doctors lies in the trend towards a decrease in the number of patients and a simultaneous increase in the number of pediatricians, which affects the profits of pediatric clinics. To maintain annual income, the doctor acts more and more aggressively, conducting questionable tests and procedures that cost clients money. This situation will undoubtedly worsen in the near future: the excess of pediatricians is becoming an increasingly noticeable problem in the medical field.

The doctor's moral benefit lies in the person's need to feel that he is doing something necessary. Realizing that most patients do not need your knowledge and skill is very difficult.

Surveys of pediatricians showed that many of them do not find satisfaction in their work: a third of those surveyed responded that they were seriously considering changing their activities “in order to get more opportunities” or “because they are tired.” Some, for the sake of “the desire to show off their knowledge and thus win the gratitude of patients,” are ready to use excessive and potentially dangerous treatment. This unjustifiable behavior of doctors poses a real threat to children.

Parents need to be aware of the shortcomings of the pediatric system so that they can be alert and avoid dangerous and unnecessary treatment for their children. But awareness of problems in pediatrics will not help if the child has a headache or stomach pain or is tormented by a cough with a fever in addition. This is why it is so important to learn to distinguish conditions that require the help of doctors from conditions that go away on their own. You need to know as much as possible not only about potentially harmful, but also useless medications and procedures.

Since almost all childhood illnesses mobilize the body’s defenses, which can be damaged by medical intervention, parental skills in providing assistance are more preferable - they are more natural than medical ones. In addition, it is parents who play a fundamental role in organizing proper, healthy nutrition for the child that helps prevent illness.

The purpose of this book is to help you develop child care skills, build confidence in your abilities and abilities, and ultimately raise healthy children.

When I tell parents that the adults caring for their child are able to take care of their child’s health better than any doctor, they often take my words as a joke. However, I am really quite confident in this for reasons that are very simple, but serious.

Those who have not exceeded half a century and who grew up in large cities of our country are unlikely to have heard anything about the “family doctor”: there are almost none of them left these days. Those who were lucky enough to know such a doctor retain in their souls the image of a friendly, attentive, caring, compassionate person.

The family doctor accompanied the family for two, three and even four generations. He knew the characteristics of the character, moods and feelings of each of its members. He treated his patients as people in need of help, and not as objects of pharmacological agents and medical technologies that replace careful examination and common sense in today's doctors. He knew the medical histories of not only family members, but often also their ancestors - parents, grandparents.

He knew how to patiently listen to the complaints of his clients, answered their questions in detail, dispelled their fears, and simply and clearly explained what exactly was happening in their body and soul. His office was cozy, comfortable, non-aggressive, and so was his character. If those whom he cared for felt unwell, he came to them himself, believing that it was appropriate for a doctor to go to the sick, and not vice versa. He never allowed conceit and medical dogma to get in the way of common sense and philanthropy. If a pill was needed, the patient received it, and the doctor relieved fears and worries kind words and a gentle gesture, without interfering with Nature to do her thing.

I admit that the image of a family doctor from my memory is somewhat romanticized, but still: this is exactly what a modern doctor should be. Alas, there are very few such doctors, which means that it is you, the parents, who will have to take care of the health of your children.
Why am I sure that parents, most of whom do not have medical education, are able to take care of the health of their children better than pediatricians? Simply because they want and can devote time and attention to their children, but doctors do not want and cannot.

The most important thing in diagnosing a disease is anamnesis, recording changes in appearance and in the patient's behavior. Parents very subtly feel the slightest changes in the child’s mood, instantly notice them in his appearance and behavior and know his medical history by heart, as well as their own and, possibly, their parents’. An ordinary pediatrician, whose office door has thirty, forty, or even fifty patients languishing in queues every day, knows nothing about the children who come to see him and, moreover, has neither the time nor intentions to find out anything. All of its technology—tests, x-rays, shots, and medications—cannot, in most cases, replace the common sense care of informed parents.

It is for this reason that the pediatrician cannot reliably conclude whether a child is sick or healthy, and if so, he can never be fully trusted. Parents are better than doctors knowledgeable about the well-being of their child, because they live with him and watch him every day with interest and love.

A quick guide to home diagnostics

If a child does not feel, look, or act sick, he is most likely not sick, and if he is, he is not sick enough to seek help. medical care. How many times have many of you felt the urge to call the doctor when you heard your child complain of a headache or stomach ache, only to be glad you didn’t an hour or two later while watching him misbehave with his siblings!

I have already mentioned the rules that should be followed during home diagnostics, but I want to repeat them because they are very important.

Rule #1. If your child doesn't feel sick, doesn't look sick, or act sick, he or she is probably healthy.

Rule No. 2. Give Mother Nature plenty of time to work her miracles before subjecting your child to a potentially dangerous treatment suggested by your doctor. The human body has an amazing ability to heal itself—an ability that, in most cases, exceeds anything that medical science can do, and without unwanted side effects.

Rule No. 3. Common sense is the best tool when dealing with illness. The doctor is unlikely to use it with the same success, because this is not what he was taught at the medical school!

Of course, there are diseases that cannot be treated without competent medical intervention, but they are rare, and in children they are the exception rather than the rule. This begs the question: how to distinguish which diseases are serious and which are not?

This is just as difficult for parents as it is for doctors, but I hope that this book will teach you how to determine the severity of most of your child’s illnesses, which means you will rarely have to contact a pediatrician.

During my medical and teaching practice, I discovered that most doctors are good at treating seriously ill patients and very poor at caring for healthy patients. This is the main drawback of medical education. Both students and trainees are taught very little about how to keep children healthy. Their education begins with the premise that any patient who walks into the office needs treatment.

At the Faculty of Medicine, a pediatric course lasts about three months, and almost all this time, using textbooks written many years ago, students study now extinct childhood diseases. They receive a lot of biased information about vaccinations and scanty knowledge of pharmacology, despite the fact that in future medical practice they have the prospect of getting more children hooked on drugs than the most successful drug dealer in their city.

The four-year medical school course devotes only about sixty hours to pharmacology, and most of this time is taught to students about the basic theory of pharmacology. Ultimately, it is the army of pharmaceutical company sales agents who equip doctors with specific knowledge about medicinal substances. They evasively call themselves “consultants.” If we draw a parallel with the distribution of street drugs, it would be appropriate to liken a consultant to a supplier of a poisonous potion, and a doctor to a drug dealer.

DOCTORS HAVE NO IDEA NOT ONLY ABOUT THE IMPORTANCE OF NUTRITION

Medical students are not taught that nutrition is often the most important element of diagnosis and treatment, and they begin their medical careers without knowing that food allergies are a leading cause of many childhood illnesses and that adequate nutrition is the foundation of health. This ignorance encourages them to use drugs where a simple change in diet can be done.

If a medical student does an internship in a healthy child clinic, he does not get an idea of ​​the real medicine that he will soon encounter there. In fact, all he does is give vaccinations, hand out vitamins and samples of infant formula, which are regularly supplied by manufacturers, and watch as senior colleagues conduct routine “preventative” examinations of healthy patients. You won’t see sick children in such a clinic, and therefore the trainee leaves it without having learned to recognize them.

New doctors are taught to scoff at alternative medicine, natural therapies, and any form of healing that does not require a medical degree. They are taught to scold “quackery,” but no one can tell how much of it there is in official medicine. How can a doctor condemn those who treat with laetrile* when he himself prescribed Bendectin, Oraflex, Zomax** or thalidomide*** to his patients until these drugs were removed from the market due to the harm they cause?

* Laetrile is a cyanide-containing compound obtained from peach pits; used in alternative medicine to treat various types cancer. (Approx. scientific editor)
** Bendectin is a remedy for the symptoms of early toxicosis of pregnancy, suspected of causing intrauterine defects in fetal development. Oraflex is an anti-inflammatory drug that has led to the death of more than a hundred patients. Zomax is an analgesic that causes severe side effects and increases the risk of cancer. (Approx. scientific editor)
*** Thalidomide is a remedy for the symptoms of early toxicosis of pregnancy; in 1959, about five hundred babies in Germany and one thousand in the rest of the world were born with congenital deformities because their mothers took the drug in the early weeks of pregnancy. (Approx. scientific editor)

What little future doctors know about breastfeeding, the most effective means of long-term protection for a child, they most often learn from male teachers who have neither experience (for obvious reasons) nor much interest in it. Despite the enormous influence breastfeeding on the development and general health of the child, which I will talk about later, during my four years of study at the Faculty of Medicine, I listened to only one lecture about it. While teachers are inactive, formula manufacturers are diligently brainwashing future doctors, dumping tons of their literature on them.

But what medical students are really taught is how to succeed in business. They are prepared for it just as thoroughly as for their main profession. According to medical teachers, a doctor should be able to give the impression of being omniscient and almost omnipotent and arousing awe in patients. (It’s simply amazing how universal and tenacious the foundations of “scientific medicine” are - H.B.)

If anyone thinks that residency training can correct the shortcomings of medical faculties, then they are mistaken. It usually takes place in hospitals, and they teach how to shoot sparrows from a cannon: the trainee’s arsenal includes dangerous diagnostic technologies, surgery and other aggressive interventions typical of hospitals. The young doctor never gets experience in treating most childhood diseases that he will soon encounter.

Hence the desire for complex interventions in cases of simple diseases, so often observed in private medical practice, which poses a serious threat to parents and requires their unrelenting attention. I will talk about this in more detail later.

A young doctor who opens his own office after residency is, as a rule, poorly educated and completely inexperienced. His understanding of the side effects of medications, the risks of procedures and operations that he performs himself and for which he easily prescribes, the possible errors of tests that he fully relies on, and the shortcomings of the technologies that he boldly uses are very limited. In addition, he knows practically nothing about things that are very important for a pediatrician - about the impact of nutrition and allergic reactions of a mental and emotional nature on the health of children.

Pediatricians often treat apparently healthy children, but refer those who are seriously ill or injured to specialists. Patient referral is an integral part of their practice. It is no coincidence that children's doctors are called dispatchers in the medical community.

Perhaps because I myself was a pediatrician for a long time, I am by no means convinced that to perform the current functions pediatrician In general, a specialist is needed. Most childhood illnesses could be successfully treated at home by informed and caring parents. When medical intervention was needed, it could be performed by a general practitioner, or a family doctor, or a specialist to whom the child could be referred. Even a nurse could successfully cope with this task if necessary. This practice has developed in many countries where there are relatively few pediatricians, and the results in medicine are much better.

As strange as it may sound, child health outcomes in these countries are better precisely because There are fewer pediatricians. Children there are healthier because they are less exposed to medical intervention and, consequently, to harmful drugs and medical technologies. In the USA, as you know, medical students are hardly taught pharmacology, but they are taught to use all sorts of new tools and methods.

New drugs and medical devices appear almost every day, supplied in abundance by pharmaceutical industry laboratories and medical device manufacturers. Most often, at the time of release, all this is not sufficiently tested and may turn out to be dangerous.

Many parents believe that the safety of medications can be ensured by the Food and Drug Administration, which they completely trust. Most doctors say the same thing, although who, if not them, knows about the actual state of affairs. It is at least frivolous to rely on the Administration for Control in such an important matter as the health of children.

Almost all medications reach the shelves without the necessary or any reliable testing in humans. These remedies probably help someone, maybe even very quickly, but how will taking them affect their future well-being? It is also not known what their likely delayed and cumulative effects will be. I will talk about them in detail in one of the chapters of the book. It may turn out that the innocent victim of new drugs will not be the one who took them. It is not he who will suffer harm, but, perhaps decades later, his children.

The history of medicine, American and global, is replete with examples of drugs approved for widespread use being withdrawn from the market only when countless victims came forward with evidence of the harm they caused. The most notorious are diethylbestrol (DES), triparanol (MER-29)* and thalidomide.

* Diethylbestrol (DES) is a synthetic estrogen that has been linked to rare cancers in the children of women who took the drug. Triparanol (MER-29) is a drug used to lower cholesterol levels that has been withdrawn due to severe adverse reactions, including blindness and hair loss. (Approx. scientific editor)

Compounding the problem, although the Food and Drug Administration has the power to prevent untested products from entering the market medicines, it is practically impossible for it to withdraw from circulation already approved ones. There is also no effective mechanism for identifying side effects of drugs released on the market in order to inform the Control Administration and the public about them. This matter is better done in European countries. They practice monitoring people taking new drugs, and thus identify the degree of risk to which they expose themselves by using this or that drug.

DOCTORS RARELY STUDY THE MEDICATIONS THEY PRESCRIBE

Indeed, it is rare that a physician studies the results of clinical trials of drugs and procedures before prescribing them. Even when commonly used drugs are questioned, most doctors do not pay any attention to this. Manufacturers of the drugs most commonly prescribed to children have been asked to provide evidence of their safety or be withdrawn from the market. They argued with the Food and Drug Administration for several years. and meanwhile their products continued to lie on the counter. The safety of most drugs has never been confirmed, which does not prevent doctors from prescribing them to patients. In this case we are talking about hundreds of medicines!

It's hard to believe, but American parents spend millions of dollars every year on drugs for their children, even though doctors prescribe these drugs without sufficient evidence of their effectiveness and harmlessness. Even worse, knowing for certain about their health hazards. Of the thirty drugs most commonly prescribed in 1979 and found to be ineffective by the FDA, more than half, including the top three, were intended for children. These are Dimetap, Actifed, Donatal, Ornad, Phenergan, Phenergan pure and Phenergan V-C with codeine, Actifed C, Bentyl, Benylin syrup, Marax and Marax Di-ef, Dimethane and Dimethane Di-C, Ambenyl, Teidrine*. The next time your doctor prescribes one of these medications for your child, it doesn't hurt to ask why he is recommending a drug whose manufacturer has not been able to prove that it helps at all.

* Mainly - symptomatic remedies for colds. (Approx. scientific editor)

IN early years medical practice, when I was still so naive that I believed everything I was taught, I sinned the same thing that I reproach my colleagues of today. During my residency, I, like my mentors, treated tonsils, acne, ringworm capitis, and enlarged lymphatics and thymus glands with x-rays. And none of my senior colleagues warned me about the long-term consequences of such treatment, and it never occurred to me to wonder whether I was causing harm to my patients.

In those years, I took everything on faith and expected the same from my patients. Now I am suspicious of every medical innovation. I am still tormented by my conscience for what I did: my X-ray treatment literally led to an epidemic of thyroid cancer among my patients. The damage they caused is still evident to this day. Even more tragic is that my colleagues and I were treating enlarged glands, which is not a disease. The size of the lymphatic and thymus glands in our patients decreased over time without any treatment, naturally.

Who knows what consequences today's pediatric students will discover from their professional misconceptions in the future? They are taught to use bilirubin lamps to treat “newborn jaundice.” (The translator, apparently, got into a puddle. Bilirubin is one of the intermediate products of the breakdown of hemoglobin - H.B.) , tympanostomy for ear infections, antibiotics for almost everything, hormones to control growth, potent behavior modification agents and other medications, tests, vaccinations and procedures that no one knows about the long-term effects.

We have yet to fully know the consequences of most treatments, but if we remember the past disasters that paved the way for “medical progress,” there is no doubt that there will be many of them, and they will be tragic.

If there is one thing that is certain about modern medicine, it is that doctors do not learn from their mistakes and most do not remember the basic tenet of the Hippocratic Oath - “do no harm.” They cause a lot of harm. The medical education system itself creates a tendency among future doctors to become more and more insensitive to their patients every year. “We would like our doctors to be sensitive and compassionate,” Daniel Borenstein of the University of California recently said, “but being too sensitive and sympathetic will prevent them from doing their jobs. Medical education should harden.”

A medical student can become proficient in common procedures used in hospitals, such as spinal taps, punctures of veins and arteries, and even insertion of tracheal tubes. However, if you stop doing them regularly, your skills will be lost: after a year or two, the doctor is unlikely to reproduce anything that was previously successful. Fortunately, this does not matter much, because pediatricians rarely have to use such skills. They would be useful in pediatric clinics, where they treat victims of poverty, poor hygiene and malnutrition, and most children's doctors do not go to them, striving for big earnings. Generally speaking, doctors do not have much opportunity to treat - children from the middle class rarely get sick, and patients of private practitioners are practically healthy. Is this why pediatricians treat children when there is no need for it?

WHAT FUTURE DOCTORS ARE TAUGHT TO DO WITH MEDICAL ERROR

When I completed my residency, they explained to me what a private practice doctor should do if he makes an irreparable mistake. First of all, it was recommended to immediately contact the insurance company that protects the interests of doctors in cases of criminal negligence, and strictly follow the advice of its agents. For a public explanation of an unfortunate, possibly fatal incident, the “magic” phrase was suggested: “Poor child... This happens in one case in a million.” Not a single word was said about the fact that parents need help coping with their grief. I was not taught any ethical standards that would be appropriate in a situation like this.

That's why, when something bad happens, doctors say, “This happens once in a million.” How can one not remember the sensational case in Toronto? Stephen Hughes, admitted to a children's hospital with a diagnosis of psychosomatic vomiting, died of intestinal obstruction a few days later. Of course, “this happens once in a million,” like, for example, the death of a child from an asthma test in Chicago.

In this chapter, I tried to dissuade you from placing blind faith in pediatricians and warned you that by seeking medical help unnecessarily, you are putting your child at greater risk. When children get sick, contacting doctors should be the last step, not the first. Most childhood diseases succumb to the body's natural defenses. All that is required from the adults caring for the child is their love and common sense.

No matter how trivial it may sound, children are the most valuable thing parents have. Their health, well-being, and mood are what loving parents care about from the moment their children are born. From the planning stage of the baby until he reaches adulthood, parents try to create the most comfortable conditions for him. harmonious development future child. They dream of raising him successful and healthy. What a healthy child should be like and how to raise a healthy child is the topic of our material today.

Healthy child: what does it mean?

In the concept of “health” of a child, we include the physical aspect and psychological state of the child, as well as his emotional state. Healthy child develops harmoniously, his body copes with harmful environmental factors and resists diseases.

A healthy child is cheerful, active, eats well, plays with pleasure, is friendly and does not cause parents any trouble. When he is not hungry and nothing hurts, he looks and behaves like an absolutely healthy, happy baby.

A child's health is influenced by genetics, social and ecological environment, compliance with hygiene rules and many other factors. But basically, the child’s health depends on his parents and their joint efforts.

They are the ones who must take on the responsibility of raising a healthy child and a successful personality. The final result will depend on them. The main role is given to the baby’s mother, but the father is also very important for the harmonious growth and development of the child.

Height, weight, development of the child in accordance with age - also important indicators health, as well as basic physical qualities, character traits, skills and habits, which are formed gradually, from month to month and from year to year.

The formation of a child’s personality needs to be done from early childhood.

In order for a child to develop quickly and grow healthy, you need to follow many rules, we will name only the main ones. Perhaps they are familiar to you.

If you want to raise a healthy child, you will have to:

• monitor the child’s daily routine from birth;
• organize daily physical exercise, active walks, sports;
• provide adequate nutrition;
• harden the baby, dress for the weather;
• create comfortable conditions for sleep and rest;
• teach a healthy lifestyle and daily hygiene;
• create a favorable, friendly family atmosphere;
• develop cognitive and communication abilities;
• communicate a lot;
• teach everything not in words, but by example;
• avoid physical punishment;
• love a child unconditionally, and not for his successes and merits.

Raising a healthy child: sports and physical activity

Few pediatricians or psychologists would recommend professional sports to a child, like effective remedy physical development. But physical activity, gymnastics, active walks and outdoor games must be present in the daily routine of a child of any age without fail. If a child goes to kindergarten, educators will take care of his motor activity, but for children under kindergarten age and those who for some reason do not attend child care institutions, parents must take care and provide:

1. Morning exercises;
2. Daily physical activity;
3. Active games and walks in the fresh air;
4. Hardening;

If the baby is up to three years With enough active games and walks in the fresh air at any time of the year, older children can already attend various sports sections:

• swimming;
• gymnastics;
• football;
• volleyball.

They benefit from cycling, trampolining, morning or evening jogging.

All these activities will bring great benefits and a lot of pleasure to the child, especially if there are a loving and caring father and mother nearby.

To ensure that your child grows up healthy, energetic and active, do morning exercises with your baby and teach the simplest physical exercises. How bigger baby will move, the better it will develop and grow faster. The benefits of physical activity for the health of children of any age cannot be underestimated. Physical exercise has a positive effect not only on the formation of immunity, but also on the development of memory, thinking, mental abilities and personal qualities.

Childhood diseases: why you shouldn’t be afraid of them?

For loving parents, any child's sneeze is a serious cause for concern. And if your beloved child’s temperature suddenly rises above 38 degrees, then you cannot do without the help of a specialist.

However, usually everything is not as scary as it seems at first glance.

Today, the book by Robert Mendelsohn, an American professor, doctor of medicine and pediatrician, “How to Raise a Healthy Child in Spite of Doctors,” is especially popular (quite deservedly so), where he explains in detail why you should not be afraid of childhood diseases.

R. Mendelson is confident that most childhood diseases do not need the attention of doctors, and teaches parents to perceive diseases as a “natural stage in the development of a child,” as a peculiar reaction of the body to the “dynamics of life.”

Parental duty is to take care of the child, raise him in love and care, not follow stereotypes, do not shift his care and responsibility for his health to anyone.

The titanic efforts of loving parents will definitely be rewarded - the child will grow up healthy and successful.

By following basic rules, you can avoid frequent ARVIs and reduce communication with doctors to a minimum. Here are some of them: do not bundle up your baby and walk with him in any weather, teach him to walk barefoot at any time of the year at home, and in the summer even at the dacha, harden children from early childhood.

Try to ventilate the room where the child spends a lot of time as often as possible, but at least twice a day - morning and evening. Breastfeeding has a very positive effect on the development and well-being of a child.

Another piece of advice regarding feeding babies is to take your time with complementary foods and give preference to simple, unpretentious food - cereals, pureed vegetables and fruits, soups and broths.

Please note that different children have different appetites. You cannot demand that your child eat more or less. Rely on the child’s choice and desire.

The health of a child is the painstaking, daily work of his parents, who will have to work every day, without holidays and weekends, to raise a healthy child.

By your own example, you need to teach children a healthy lifestyle, healthy habits, proper routine, and nutritious nutrition.

The health of a child is not a momentary condition, but the result of the long-term work of his family.

Be confident that your child is healthy, and let this confidence be passed on to your baby. A positive attitude, trusting relationships, a favorable family atmosphere, love and support from parents - this is what will help raise a healthy child. Love your children, trust your intuition and be guided common sense in matters of education.

Introduction.

The book meets the natural desire of every parent to raise their child healthy and happy. But not everyone knows how to achieve this.

I discovered true knowledge in this area, which can help everyone who sincerely wants to raise children happy and healthy.

I warn the particularly inquisitive and intelligent reader that scientific terms, as well as scientific justifications, are completely absent in this book, due to the incompetence of science in matters of true knowledge concerning happiness, love and health. There is no science that represents such knowledge.

The book is laid out as chapters are written. That is why, until the book is finished, you will see the phrase “to be continued” at the end of writing the next chapter.

Chapter 1. Start with yourself.

Before you can begin to fulfill your desire to raise a happy and healthy child, you will have to start with yourself.

The truth is that you cannot give your children what you do not have. If you were healthy and happy, you would not need this book, because its title speaks for itself.

Happy and healthy people do not read such literature, because they are already healthy and happy.

It is precisely because you do not consider yourself happy and/or healthy that you are interested in this book. If you yourself don’t have something, can you give it to someone else, including a child? The answer is obvious. No you can not.

To give your child happiness, love and health, you first need to find it yourself. Is not it?

ILLUSION OF SUFFERING, OR "WOE FROM MIND".

Every person in his life has experienced negative experiences that cause pain and suffering more than once. Emotions and feelings such as irritation, resentment, anger, misunderstanding, dissatisfaction, loneliness, disappointment, hopelessness, despair, rejection, shame, envy, jealousy, worry, anxiety, hatred, guilt, fear, etc. known to everyone.

Negative thoughts and experiences bring a person pain and suffering, which, accumulating over the years, develop into deep dissatisfaction with life and the feeling of oneself as an absolutely unhappy person.

Having learned the essence and causes of your own suffering, you will discover that suffering and fears are just an illusion of the mind, nothing more.

Before realizing the truth of my statement, let's start with the root cause of any experience.

A person’s emotional state directly depends on thoughts. This is an indisputable fact. Thoughts about good things cause good mood and positive emotions. Thoughts about bad things cause a bad mood and negative (negative) emotions and feelings.

Only with the complete absence of thoughts does peace come.

To explain why suffering is an illusion of the mind, I will bring to your attention the contents of Chapter 2 from my book “The Direct Path to Happiness, Love and True Wealth”

When a baby is born, his pure unconscious does not know who he is. He is aware only of living here and now. For a newborn there is nothing more than living life in the present moment. From the first days of life, the child simply lives.

Until the age of three to five, children live their lives consciously being present in every moment. They do not yet know how to think independently, and live guided only by their own needs and desires, which they vividly experience and realize.

At this age, children enjoy life in all its manifestations if adults do not interfere with them. They live simply and sincerely, accepting life as it comes.

Children are spontaneous and natural in everything. They are completely present in every moment of life, reacting to everything absolutely sincerely, without thinking whether they are doing right or wrong. They don't care about conventions and rules because they haven't learned them yet. This is what makes their life serene and happy.

Almost every adult experiences tenderness in the presence of a baby and watching him. Have you ever wondered why this happens? The answer is obvious. Next to the baby, what is given to each of us from birth comes to life in us - a forgotten feeling of happiness.

Children's innate ability to be serene and happy, accepting life as it is, disappears with age for most people.

Remember yourself in early childhood. What was the most important and meaningful for you?

Only you, your desires and needs, which you immediately tried to realize and satisfy.

If you don't remember yourself in this early age, watch children of this age. You will be surprised that apart from themselves and their own desires, nothing exists for little children.

Children love their parents absolutely. They accept their parents, like everything that happens to them, as a given, which exists and is natural, like life itself. At the same time, children perceive their parents as those who satisfy most of their needs and desires. For children, the obviousness of such a relationship is natural. They absolutely know that they simply need their parents.

Children three to five years old retain the ability to love life, themselves and their parents absolutely. They love with true love. Therefore, they can give it to everyone and everything: mom and dad, grandparents, sisters and brothers, dogs and cats, butterflies and dragonflies, flowers and trees - the whole world. Little children love absolutely sincerely, no matter what, that is, unconditionally (without conditions). Love in its essence is unconditional. This is a feeling that defies not only description, but also attempts to put it into at least some kind of framework. We can only feel love.

Growing up, a person gradually forgets his true self, and, as a result, loses the ability to love himself.

Under the burden of upbringing, as well as under the burden of imposed rules and conventions, we forget ourselves and acquire false images imposed on us by family, society and environment.

False images are so unnatural and illusory that it is simply impossible to love them. All the more impossible is happiness, which disappears along with the lost awareness of one’s true self.

Forgetting oneself occurs with the formation of the mind. The smarter a person becomes, the more he forgets his true self. With the mind, a personality begins to form. The root of the word “personality” comes from the word “mask,” that is, mask.

A child receives his first masks - masks in his own family, when he is criticized, condemned or praised by his own parents: you are good or bad, you are smart or mediocrity, you are neat or dirty, you are wonderful or terrible, etc. You yourself can remember all the words that your own parents and those around you branded you with. The worst thing for any child is the condemnation, criticism and anger of their own parents.

At the same time, your parents believed that they were right and were sure that they loved you.

And you? How did you feel as a child at that moment when you were criticized, scolded and shamed by your own dad and mom? Even now you feel uneasy from such memories, because you felt that you were not loved.

A child, absolutely trusting his own parents, begins to think about himself with the concepts and criteria of adults, which are instilled in him by his most beloved and dearest people. Thus, thanks to their own parents, children begin to think about themselves the same way as their parents, gradually accepting the replacement of their true selves with those masks and guises that their own mother and father hang on them. The child's mind begins to identify itself with these masks.

It is unfortunate that the destruction of the true essence of their own “beloved” child is being done by his own parents, who themselves have long buried themselves under a pile of their own faces and masks.

Can a “false self” that does not remember itself and does not love itself, raise a truly happy, self-sufficient and loving person?

Going out into society and growing up, a child begins to encounter the opinions of other people who also judge and evaluate him according to their own criteria.
In family, kindergarten, at school, at college, at work, our focus on the opinions of others begins to replenish the collection of masks that the person himself, as an adult, begins to cultivate and broadcast to the world as his own personality.
Quite often you can hear from some people a confident and proud presentation of themselves in a sincere, strong conviction - “I am a person.” This statement is the burial of the true self. By getting used to numerous images and falsely identifying oneself with them, a person loses his truth.

Masks and images become inseparable from the person wearing them. The personality, without noticing it, introduces itself by the name of its masks: I am a director, I am a businessman, I am a professor, I am a doctor, I am a husband/wife, I am a mother/father, I am a pensioner. All masks are a show where the most important thing is missing - the one who wears them. There is a complete loss of who you were born to be. The false personality has become firmly entrenched in one’s own brain. With age, your mind has become stronger and your personality has taken root firmly in your consciousness, putting a big, fat cross on you.

All the masks, images and everything that happens to you in life are all the machinations of “your” mind, which cannot be called the word “yours”, because you acquired it through knowledge that was not invented by you.

The biggest illusion of a person is his mind.

Ask yourself:
- Everything I know, I came up with?

The answer is obvious:
- No.

You have spent your entire life studying OTHERS' knowledge. You didn’t come up with the laws of physics, mathematics, philosophy and others. You did not write history, geography, natural science and other humanities. It was not you who composed the poems of Pushkin and Yesenin. You have only acquired this ALIEN knowledge and consider it your own. Totally absurd. Is not it?
Most of your mind and intellect is made up of “knowledge” that you acquired from the outside, and therefore is not yours. This is an indisputable fact.
But the most important thing is that YOU DO NOT know anything about life, but the mind you acquired from the outside, which gained most of the “knowledge” from external sources: from mom, dad, family, loved ones, friends, teachers, books, media, the Internet and society that has surrounded you all the years of your life. Whatever you consider to be your mind has nothing to do with your personal knowledge.

Your own knowledge was acquired by you on your own life experience. Your experience is what you have personally experienced and experienced in your life.
You fell, hurt yourself, got burned, drowned, got sick, got married, gave birth, got divorced, lost relatives and friends, suffered, experiencing your own feelings and emotions - this is your own experience and your knowledge. Only this knowledge belongs to you, since you acquired it through your own experience. The rest of the “knowledge,” of which there is much more, cannot be called your knowledge. This knowledge is acquired and borrowed from others, that is, ALIENS, not yours.

Obviously, the mind is not a criterion of truth. However, you easily trust “your” mind. Why? How does the mind know what it thinks? If he is so “smart,” then why doesn’t he know all the answers to all your questions?

And now the main and most important questions:

- “Your” mind belongs to whom?
-Who is the master of your mind?
- If the mind belongs to you and you are its owner, then why does it always think what it wants?
- Do you yourself direct the thoughts that arise in your head?

The answers will puzzle you. You don't control what your brain thinks. He himself chooses the thoughts and thoughts that he himself thinks. Most often, you are not in charge of this process. Which proves that your mind has become your master. Do you think this is normal?

The following questions will sober you up even more:

The thoughts you think come and go. So?
- If something comes and goes, does it belong to you?
-Where do your thoughts come from? And where do they go? You know that?
-Where is your mind located in your body? Try to find this place and pinpoint it exactly. Many people say that the mind is in the head. This is a ridiculous and absolutely illusory statement, since everyone knows that in the head there is only a brain, which is not the mind.
- So what is the mind? Where is he located? Find and pinpoint the “address” of “your” mind. Does not work?

Let's search your mind together.

Stop thinking. Let your brain go silent. There is perfect silence in my head, not a single thought. Be in a state of not thinking for a while. Observe the silence in your head. Be here and now in the present moment without thinking. Be aware of the body, breathing, seeing, hearing. Be aware and watch yourself in complete thoughtlessness. Notice that it is easy for you to be aware of yourself without thinking about anything.

Now answer your question:

When you're not thinking about anything, is your brain in the same place it was?
- If the brain did not go anywhere, and you did not think, then where was your mind?

Try again to be in the present moment without thinking. Realize that in the absence of thoughts, you do not disappear anywhere. There are no thoughts, but you are. Therefore the mind cannot represent you. In his absence, you do not disappear anywhere. You exist regardless of the presence or absence of the mind, and this is obvious.

Realize simple truths:

Your brain is an organ of the body that is not your mind.
- The mind is not yours, since you cannot even find it.
- mind is an illusion. That's why you can't find it anywhere. You can't find something that doesn't exist.
- In the absence of mind, you do not disappear anywhere, which once again confirms its illusory nature.
- You exist, regardless of the fact that the mind is absent.

For skeptics and those who are especially smart, I suggest testing these truths on yourself in order to be convinced of your own rightness and your own point of view. Prove to yourself that you and your mind are right.

Close your eyes, don't think about anything, and be aware of the silence in your head. Be in this silence just long enough until your eyes open on their own. This will take very little time. You will be surprised that you can easily silence your brain, but not for long.

The main discovery for you will be that at that moment when your brain was silent and perfect silence reigned in your head, the mind disappeared, but you did not.

For those who still cannot believe that there is no mind in you, when the brain becomes silent, I recommend re-checking yourself again and again. Suddenly the author of the book is lying. Test yourself as many times as you want until you become aware of your real self, in whom there is no and cannot be a mind.

To realize the next truth, which I will voice a little later, and for the sake of which you started reading this book, you need to become aware of yourself again.

Close your eyes, remove all thoughts from your head, and plunge into silent silence. Observe your inner state. Be aware and feel what is happening inside you when your brain is silent. In complete silence and silence of the brain, peace and serenity comes. Be in this peace and quiet for a while. Enjoy this state, which is completely natural for you, as long as you feel comfortable. When enough, the eyes will open on their own.

The truth, as always, is simple:

Happiness is a state of peace.

This truth is recognized and proven even by scientists who are extremely smart and deeply skeptical...)))

Realize also that the state of peace is in yourself, therefore you yourself are happiness...))) For which I congratulate you!

All your suffering, like the mind, is also illusory. This is easy to realize.

When your brain is silent, you are in a state of peace and serenity. When the brain begins to think, the state of rest disappears. Thoughts and mind agitate emotions and feelings, causing anxiety and suffering. Anxiety is the opposite side of peace. In other words, all your worries are from the mind. Griboyedov brilliantly formulated this truth in three words: “Woe from Wit.” I’ll add a logical continuation on my own - happiness is beyond the mind. We get the complete truth “Woe is from the mind, happiness is outside the mind.”

Having “turned off” your brain, you were in a state of peace and serenity for some time, that is, in a state of happiness. Why don't you extend this state of happiness to an hour, two hours, a whole day, one month, a year and finally your whole life?

“If you have seen a lot of misfortunes, troubles, hardships and grief in your life,
I was embittered in my soul, offended that such a fate befell me.
Close your eyes, listen to yourself. Who is unhappy inside you?
Turn off your mind, let it be silent. There is peace, love and happiness inside.”

(From the series “My rubai.”) http://www.stihi.ru/avtor/maradgao

All your fears, suffering, sorrows, experiences, negative emotions and feelings are the result of the activity of the mind. Only your own thoughts that excite you do not give you peace. Thinking, as a constant work of the mind, causes your worry, anxiety and fears, causing you suffering and pain. It is the mind and thoughts that are the source of all your experiences.

The logical chain of any experience is as follows. First a thought arises. Then comes your reaction to that thought. You react to a thought by judging it. The result of your reaction and judgment to a thought is certain feelings and emotions that bother you. Most often, these are negative feelings and emotions: irritation, anger, resentment, doubt, anxiety, jealousy, envy, hopelessness, fear, horror, panic, etc.

When the mind is silent, experiences disappear. When there is silence in the head, the bliss of peace and serenity comes.

Psychiatrists believe that people who have voices in their heads are crazy. You are constantly having certain conversations in your own head. Is not it? The voice of your mind constantly sounds in your head. What's this?

At the same time, it is believed that listening to mom and dad, teachers and educators, and other smart people who read smart books, which were written by smart writers who listen to their own voice in their own head - this is normal.

The choice is up to each of you. Continue to listen to “your” mind, or find the happiness that you yourself are.

PRACTICE OF PEACE.

The main condition for practice is silence and silence in the head.

Close your eyes for a while and remove all thoughts from your head. Be in complete silence and darkness, which is natural with your eyes closed. Feel peace and tranquility within yourself. Immerse yourself in this complete peace and silence of silence. Enjoy the peace within yourself. Feel and realize the bliss of your own essence. Be in this state as long as you want.

I sincerely congratulate those who succeeded in the practice, with the understanding and awareness that peace, and therefore happiness, is in each of us.

If you manage to be in a state of rest for a few minutes, why not extend this state for an hour, two, one day or for the rest of your life?

In the future, the practice of peace will be the basis for getting rid of any negative feelings, emotions, erroneous and false psychological attitudes that originate in the parental family and society, and have nothing to do with our true essence.

In the treatment of various diseases, which are also caused by erroneous thoughts, emotions and feelings, as proven by psychosomatics, the science of the relationship between the soul (psycho) and the body (somos), we will also use the practice of peace.

The practice of stillness is essentially a simple and natural immersion within oneself.

Those who managed to plunge into themselves discovered absolute emptiness, which confirms the modern theory of quantum human consciousness, which proves that human consciousness is nothing more than emptiness.

Based on the fact that consciousness is emptiness, it is logical that emptiness cannot experience. There is nothing in it: neither time, nor space, nor, especially, experiences.

In order to understand in more detail the essence, depth and importance of our experiences, we will need to return to the moment of birth of each of us.

THE SECRET OF BIRTH AND WHAT IS DEATH.

As we already know, a child is born with an absolutely pure consciousness. From the moment of birth, the newborn enters into its first interaction with the world. However, already during childbirth, the child receives the first mental trauma, which is called “birth trauma.”

Have you ever wondered: “Why is it that almost none of the people remember their birth?” The answer is simple.

Birth is perceived by the person being born as their own death. This is why a newborn screams heart-rendingly at birth, and does not laugh and rejoice at being born into the world.
In order to protect consciousness from the first psychological trauma, a person forgets the memory of his own birth, but this memory is archived in the subconscious memory. Every psychoanalyst knows the explanation for this phenomenon.

The mechanism of “birth trauma” is as follows.

It has been proven that in utero, the child feels nervous. He perceives his intrauterine state as heaven. Inside the mother it is warm, nourishing, comfortable and serene. Absolute freedom of action and the realization of any desires: I want - I sleep, I want - I “walk”, I want - I suck my thumb, I want - I eat. Paradise, and that's all.

Childbirth begins. Paradise is gradually turning into something terrible.

The warm, serene, familiar environment disappears somewhere. The waters where he rested, as in paradise, recede. The child begins to move “forward,” most often with his head, along some scary narrow channels where he can suffocate, especially if the contraction has stopped and the head has not yet come out. The head is squeezed in the tight captivity of the birth canals. You already want to breathe, but there is no way. The strength is leaving. The horror continues. The fear of one's own death covers all of nature. And now, the moment of entering another world, and: “Oh, horror!”... The first breath of air tears your lungs apart with hitherto unknown pain. It becomes incredibly cold, and the insane fear of meeting a new reality breaks out with the heart-rending cry of a newborn (new birth), asking:

Where I am? I died?

Thus, the fear of death is the first experience of a newborn, which remains with him for the rest of his life. But is this death? What is death if not a transition from one world to another? Using birth as an example, the TRANSITION from the mother's womb to this world.

I am eternally grateful to the Internet for talented people, thanks to whom you can learn what seems unknown. I thank the unknown author in advance for his brilliant presentation of the intrauterine worldview of a person.

CONVERSATION OF BROTHERS IN THE MOTHER'S STOMACH.

Do you believe in life after childbirth? - the unbelieving baby asks his brother.

Of course,” answered the believer. – There is life after childbirth. I believe in it. We are here to get stronger and be ready for what awaits us after birth.

“This is all nonsense,” objected the unbelieving brother. – There is no life after childbirth. Are you crazy? Can you imagine life after childbirth?

I don't know all the details, but everything is different there. This is a different life, not like here. There will probably be more light there. It is possible that we can do something there that we cannot do or have here. I don’t know exactly, but I’m sure that everything will be different, new.

This is all nonsense! It’s funny to even talk about this! We have an umbilical cord that nourishes us. Our life is an umbilical cord. It’s already too short to think about anything else. No one has ever returned from there. Life ends with childbirth. Childbirth is death.

No, answered the believer. – I don’t know exactly what life will look like after childbirth, but I believe that we will have a different life. We will definitely see mom there. She will take care of us there.

Mom? Do you still believe in your mother? You haven't even seen her, and you believe in her? And where is it located, in your opinion?

She is everywhere around us. We are in it. Thanks to her, we live here. Without her we would not exist.

What nonsense! - exclaimed the unbelieving brother. – I didn’t see any mother, so it’s obvious that she’s gone!

Not true. “I don’t know for sure, but I believe and feel that it exists,” the believer responded calmly. “Sometimes, when everything is quiet around me, I hear her thoughts and feel that she is worried about us. Sometimes she sings. But I feel her love especially strongly. She often hugs and strokes our world. I firmly believe that our real life will begin only after childbirth.

LIFE AFTER CHILDREN, OR, WHAT YOU SOW, COMES TO REAP.

During the first months, a newborn perceives the world through sensations. At this time, the child develops emotional and sensory perception. The baby subtly feels the mother, who for him is an inseparable part of himself, no matter how strange it may sound.

It has long been proven that the psyche of a newborn does not recognize itself as different from its mother. Every psychoanalyst knows about this.

Simply put, the newborn believes that “Mom is me.” “Mom is, I am. Mom’s gone, I’m gone.”

During this period, the child subtly feels all the feelings and emotions that the mother experiences and expresses, imbuing himself with new sensations. Subsequently, the baby cultivates the feelings and emotions he copied from his mother as his own, and not acquired.

Thus, in the first year of a baby’s life, his emotional and sensory sphere is formed. All the emotions and feelings that a mother gives to her child in the first year of life are felt and experienced in the future as if they were their own.

If you want your child to be happy and loving, give him love, kindness, affection, care, tenderness and attention. For such a child, showing love will become the norm, and he will be able to create a happy future.

If you sow irritation, rejection, resentment, anger, aggression in a child, he will grow up to be an unhappy, insecure person who does not know how to love anyone, including himself.
The truth of “what goes around comes around” is obvious.

People often come to me who feel resentment, anger, irritation, and sometimes aggression.

When we conduct a self-immersion session, a person most often becomes aware of unconscious memories of his first months of life, where he feels how offended, irritated and angry his mother is.

Case study:

Alexey, 35 years old, complained that his wife often offended, angered and enraged him. He loves her, but living with her has become unbearable. Every day she throws scandals at him over every trifle, regardless of the children.

She is always dissatisfied with everything, always angry, always angry and yells at everyone. This all infuriates me so much that I don’t want to go home. I don't drink, I don't smoke. I don't have problems with money. Everything she wants, she has. Any things, car, beauty salons, travel. Children and home also have everything they want. It seems like live and be happy. So no. Every day there are quarrels and scandals out of the blue. This has been going on for two years now. It’s so offensive, Alexey continues, barely holding back tears. - I live only for her and the children. I feel sorry for the children to the point of tears. They are still very small, the eldest is three years old, the youngest is two years old. They see and hear all this, and she often lashes out at them too, which is the worst thing. - Alexei is crying.

During the session - deep immersion into oneself, an unconscious memory of the first months emerges from Alexey’s subconscious memory.

Apparently I'm a baby, because I'm swaddled. Somewhere nearby are my mom and dad. They are fighting. I feel it and am aware of it, although I don’t see them. Mom screams a lot and gets angry with dad. Dad freaks out and shouts something evil to mom. I don’t know why, but I really understand that they are making trouble. Dad slams the door and leaves. Mom is crying. She's very upset. - Tears appear in Alexei’s eyes. He's crying, sobbing like Small child... – Mom is very offended by dad and is angry with him. I can feel it. I feel very sorry for my mother. - Alexey is crying bitterly.

When Alexey calms down a little, I ask him:

How do you feel towards your mother?

I feel bad for my mom, I feel sorry for her, and I’m angry with my dad.

Alexey, carefully feel yourself and realize which of you and your mother is offended and angry? You or your mom? Who feels sorry for themselves? You or your mom?

“Mom is offended, angry, and she feels sorry for herself,” Alexey answers after a while.

How do you feel?

Nothing. I feel calm and good.

So whose resentment, anger and pity is this? Yours or your mom's?

Mom's.

After the session of self-immersion, Alexey could not feel either resentment or anger towards his wife. He realized that the negative emotions he was experiencing were not his, but his mother's.

My many years of practice with people, which is based primarily on personal experience working with oneself confirms that a person ACQUIRES all experiences, feelings and emotions from his parents, and, above all, from his mother, and, in the absence of parents, from those close to him.

From my own personal experience of working with myself, as well as from many years of experience as a practicing psychoanalyst, I dare to say that we receive the first emotions from our mother in utero.

The mother, initially, from the moment the child is conceived, has a great mission and responsibility for the future of her own child.

I feel how depressed the readers whose children are already grown up are. Do not worry.

TO BE CONTINUED.

For those who want to gain knowledge faster, I recommend my work: “The Direct Path to Happiness, Love and Wealth.”